'Rules’ for Being Friends With an Introvert.

Understanding your Introverted Friends.

1. Unless something’s on fire, don’t show up at our home unannounced. Most extroverts seem to have no trouble suddenly being “on,” and they love — even welcome — an unexpected social surprise. But not so for us introverts. We need time to mentally prepare to see people. And to us, our homes/rooms are private spaces where we let down our guard and relax. Do not, I repeat, do not infringe on our sacred space — without getting permission from us in advance. 2. If it’s supposed to be just the two of us, don’t invite other people. It’s hurtful if we feel like we’re just another warm body in your entourage. We want to mean something to you, because if we’re friends, you mean a lot to us. Due to our limited people energy, we don’t let just anybody into our inner circle. If you have to invite other people, at least give us a heads up. 3. Give us a tiny moment of real connection over hours of polite chitchat. How are you really? What’s actually on your mind? Don’t just say it was a good weekend. Tell us about the existential crisis you had over the fact that you’re getting older and your life isn’t where you thought it would be. We’d rather know what’s going on inside you — what’s really going on — than just see the polished, “social media friendly” front that you display to everyone else. 4. Don’t judge when we go quiet or get lost in our inner world. The introvert’s inner world is vivid and alive, and we process things deeply. This means we’re prone to daydreaming, suddenly going quiet, and just all-around getting lost in our thoughts. If we drift off for a moment, or need a few extra beats to think, don’t slap us with a “Helloooooo come back to Earth!” or a “Why are you so quiet?” This will only make us feel extremely self-conscious. 5. Don’t expect constant contact. This is very important. Unlike your more extroverted friends, we’re not going to text you every day — or even every weekend. That doesn’t mean we’ve forgotten about you. On the contrary, you likely float through our busy mind quite a bit when we’re apart. But we know we’ll soon see each other again, and we’d rather catch up in a way that’s meaningful — in person, favorite drink in hand, one-on-one. 6. Understand that even though we had fun hanging out yesterday, we probably don’t want to hang out again today. Outings stress Introverts mentally and physically... The fact that we had fun hanging yesterday doesn't mean we want to hang today.. Please Understand this